Archive for January, 2008

Natural Family Planning: CCL now says the old was good.

Sunday, January 27th, 2008

On December 12, 2007, CCL sent its “Extreme Makeover” package or press kit around the country.  It is very negative about its former teaching and methodology, using language such as “stale materials” and “complex” and “outdated.”  One of CCL’s volunteers found it too objectionable to retain in their house. In promoting its new program, CCL also implied that the old program was not personal and relied on the teaching authority of the Church.  So what’s impersonal about the covenant theology of sexuality that we brought to the founding of CCL?  One of its great attractions is that couples can quickly grasp and internalize it because it is not complex but very straightforward, simple, and personal.  Secondly, the covenant theology is similar to the theology of the body (TOB) concerning the marriage act.  Several years ago in Cincinnati, Christopher West spoke on the TOB.  At the end of his talk, Chris took questions and several times he answered, “It’s a renewal of your wedding vows.”  In other words, when one of the Church’s foremost American proponents of the papal TOB wants a shorthand expression to apply it to the marriage act, he uses the covenant theology. 
     And what’s wrong with referring to the teaching authority of the Church as the prime reason for being certain that marital contraception is seriously immoral?  The dissenters quickly realized that their arguments for marital contraception didn’t hold water in a Christian context, so they promptly switched their efforts to arguing about authority.  If NFP instruction is only an anatomy course, the authority issue isn’t necessary, but by the same token neither is any reference to the theology of the body.  But if NFP instruction is provided in the context of living a Christian marriage, the authority issue is extremely important and helpful.
    
On January 9, 2008, CCL sent a message to its teachers that had a tone quite different from its December 12 communication about the former program.  Now the CCL management is reminding its teachers of the value of the teaching program that we designed and helped to direct during our 32 years with the League.  Teachers should remember that the “old program served us well.”  Further, “since the old program served us faithfully and well for more than 30 years” (actually 36 from the fall of 1971 to the end of 2007), CCL teachers are “to be thoughtful” when they are discussing “the relative merits of the old course versus the new.”  So what does that mean?  Was the CCL management “thoughtful” in what it wrote about the old program in its “Extreme Makeover” package?  After all, if teachers believed that the old program was really as bad as the promotion for the “Extreme Makeover” made it appear, who would want to teach it?  The reality is that in matters of substance the old program is far superior to the new. The problem for CCL is that less than four percent of its teachers (30 of their 850 teachers) were prepared to teach the new program the start of this year (E-News, 1/9/08; Extreme Makeover, 12/12/07). 

That might be a financial concern to some organizations, but CCL is well prepared to weather lots of non-teaching. As of the end of their fiscal year, June 30 2007, CCL had over a half million dollars in the bank. Add to that another $479,000 in receivables and inventory. 

NEXT WEEK:  The relative merits of the old versus the new.

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality (Ignatius)
Natural Family Planning: The Question-Answer Book, online at
www.NFPandmore.org

Natural Family Planning: NFP Teaching Can Be Fun

Sunday, January 20th, 2008

After a few years of not teaching NFP classes, Sheila and I taught our first class of a revised NFP course for our new organization, NFP International.  It was fun.
     The preparation for teaching was something less than fun.  A teaching couple had sent us a PowerPoint presentation, but we didn’t have a projector.  We ordered one, but its shipment was delayed, so it was scheduled to arrive late in the afternoon the day before the class.  I can’t live with that sort of “iffy,” so we prepared to teach directly from a printout of our online manual, “Natural Family Planning: The Question-Answer Book.”  We were teaching at the request of our pastor who had one couple under instruction for a summer wedding.  We did no other publicity aside from that parish’s Sunday bulletin, so we knew we would have only one to three couples in attendance.  We printed out a manual for them as well. 
     As it turned out, we taught only the one couple, and teaching from the manual was easy.  We sat at a table facing the couple at their table.  Sheila and I each had a manual, and the couple shared theirs.  As usual, we split up the teaching every few minutes.  It was simple: ask a question directly from the manual and answer it in our own words or sometimes directly from the text.  We added a few practice charts, and before the break the couple had evaluated the temperature pattern on two different charts.  We came back to these same charts for the evaluation of the mucus and cervix signs.  For us it was an enjoyable experience. 
     We are currently making a few changes in the manual to make it even better for such purposes, and we may decide to keep teaching right from that manual when we have only one to three couples to instruct.  The PowerPoint presentation will be better suited for larger groups.  We will continue to teach from the manual for the second and third meetings of this course.
     In retrospect, the late arrival of the projector was a blessing in disguise.  If it had arrived earlier, we would have used the PowerPoint presentation and would not have had this no-tech experience.  One advantage of this approach is that we were able to maintain face-to-face contact with the couple in a fully lit room.  Another advantage of using just the manual without a projector is that this approach is well suited for poor areas of the world where electricity is either non-existent or irregular.
     What makes teaching the NFPI program rewarding is that its teachers know that it is essentially the same program that they taught successfully over the years but with a revised approach.     

 

NEXT WEEK:  CCL now says the old was good.

 

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality (Ignatius)
Natural Family Planning: The Question-Answer Book
www.NFPandmore.org

 

Breastfeeding: The Mother Who Ran

Sunday, January 13th, 2008

About three months ago I was in New York and met an interesting lady from Bhutan.  Bhutan is located in the Himalaya Mountains sandwiched between India and China.  Because of my questions about breastfeeding in her country, she began to compare her country with the United States.  For example, here in the States women dress immodestly and think nothing of being nude in front of other women, i.e. when taking a shower, but in her country women dress modestly and would avoid undressing in front of other women.  On the other hand, mothers in her country nurse their babies everywhere, in all sorts of public places, unlike here in the States where public nursing is frowned upon. 
     I think you will find her experience fascinating as she was determined to nurse her children, whether at home or at the office.  She has agreed to share her story.  Here it is.  

“I am a 39 year old and mother of 3 children, now 20, 17 and 12.  My daughter was born premature in the year 1987.  My elder son was born in 1990 and the youngest son in 1996.   Although bottle feeding (formula) was becoming more readily available and more popular in Bhutan, I always wanted to breastfeed my children and I did.  My first child was born premature and I had a tough time breastfeeding her for the first 2 months.  I had to squeeze first into a cup and feed her with a tiny spoon.  At that time I never tried formula.  I was lucky for I was not working at that time.  I had full time for my baby and I could spend a lot of time in my effort to breastfeed her. The first two months I fed her by spoon until she reached the normal birth age of a pregnancy.  She could not suck properly until 2 months old.
     By the time my second child was born, I was working as a government employee.   Government employees were entitled to three months maternity leave and after the completion of that leave time, we (mothers) had to feed our children only during lunch time which was 1- 2 PM.  Keeping in mind how important my job was to me and how important my child was to me, I fulfilled both responsibilities and did not fail at either.  I would breastfeed my child before I left for work.  I worked hard to clear all my papers on my desk as fast as I could so I could run home to feed my baby.  I ran at least 3 times a day back and forth between my work and my baby.  
     It took me 15-20 minutes going and coming back. I needed at least 10 minutes to nurse my baby.  Every day I was gone for about one hour.   For example, my office hours were 9 am to 5 pm with a lunch break from 1 to 2 pm.  I ran home around 10:30 in the morning and was back around 11 am.   I took my lunch break from 12.30 pm to 1:30 pm. when I went home to feed my baby.   I made another visit to my baby at 3 pm. 
      I was always worried that someone would see me leaving and that an office memo would appear on the notice board stating that this was not allowed.  I was fortunate that my job responsibilities dealt with other offices.  If anyone saw me and asked questions, I was able to cover up this activity.  In fact my work involved other offices dealing with foreigners visiting Bhutan.  These offices were out of my work area and so it was always easy for me to make excuses.
     It was difficult but the difficulty was nothing compared to the excitement that you get from holding your baby and breast feeding.  The excitement of being a MOTHER may not be felt so deep inside if one does not breastfeed their children.
      My first child breastfed until age 3 when I became pregnant with my second child.  (We believed [erroneously] that breast milk spoils and is not healthy for children when you become pregnant.)  My second child breastfed until almost age 5 (until start of pre-primary school).  My third child breastfed until age 3.
     My culture is very conservative in many ways.  As a young girl or teenager, we do not wear anything that is too revealing or which would expose much skin.   However after becoming a mother, no matter where we were (i.e., in a bus, in a crowd or in a public area) we understood that our baby’s need to feed was immediate.  Being conservative was not as important when it came to breastfeeding.  Breastfeeding comes first.  Therefore, with my own experience of being a mother and breastfeeding my three children, I take breastfeeding as “MOST IMPORTANT”.  Breastfeeding helps our children to be healthier and good health is the most valuable wealth. My kids are very healthy now and I believe that is the result of BREASTFEEDING” (emphasis in original).

Mothers:  If you have an interesting breastfeeding story to share, I would love to hear from you.  I hope to share a story each day during World Breastfeeding Week beginning August 1, 2008.  Some mothers believe that breastfeeding is so important to their babies and breastfeeding means so much to them that these mothers make an extraordinary commitment to make it work, like the lady above.  Last year I blogged daily on the current breastfeeding research during World Breastfeeding Week. This year I would like to devote my daily blogs during this special Week to showing the dedication of mothers toward their breastfed babies.  Please share at:  nfpandmore@nfpandmore.org.  Thanks.

Sheila Kippley
NFP International
www.NFPandMore.org
Author: Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood and Natural Family Planning: The Question-Answer Book (e-book at this website)