Archive for August, 2008

Ecological breastfeeding: Prevention is the best medicine

Sunday, August 3rd, 2008

Ecological breastfeeding: Prevention is the best medicine
         #3 in WBW series
In our marriage, NFP has been a blessing in that I have been able to receive proper medical care, knowing that I was making a prudent decision when needing to space children. In 1989, my sister was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. At that time, my obstetrician asked how many members of my family had ovarian and breast cancer. My reply was something like: “Well, my mom, her only sister, my cousins, my maternal grandfather’s sisters and their daughters, etc.” Because of the number of female members who had the same type of cancer, my family (my sisters and myself) was asked to be part of the Familial Ovarian Cancer Clinic’s (FOCC) study in Boston. During that time, we also noted that there were several other types of cancer in the family, including but not limited to colon cancer.
   My husband and I felt that it was necessary to be prudent in our decision in regards to having children. At the same time, we also wanted to continue to be open to life. The doctors in Boston consistently asked that I go on the pill to reduce the number of ovulations that would occur and thus reduce the chance of ovarian cancer. The pill was not a viable option as we knew that the pill could act as an abortifacient. The doctors then strongly recommended that I have my ovaries removed. At that time, it was believed that those who started ovulating early or had a late menopausal history in their family had a greater number of ovulations which could act in an adverse way towards developing ovarian cancer. It certainly made no sense to us to take a pill for a healthy body or to have an organ removed which was not diseased. Yet, prudence dictated that particular testing should be done. Specifically, it was recommended to have ovarian ultrasounds to assist in picking up increased blood flow associated with ovarian cancer and yearly mammograms. When I found out that I had adenomatous polyps growing in my colon (a precancerous growth), I had to add to the picture of testing: colonoscopies as recommended by my physician.
   My husband and I have been fortunate in being able to have 8 beautiful children. I recently gave birth to our newest little son and turned 46 shortly after his birth. When our babies have been around 7-8 months of age, I have my colonoscopy. At that time, I can feed the baby some solids and skip a nursing, therefore not worrying about the medication taken during the procedure affecting the baby. When my menses returns somewhere between 12 to 15 months postpartum, I make an appointment for an ovarian ultrasound as it is preferred to be done at a particular time of the cycle. Finally, when the baby is done nursing, I have my mammogram. All in all, considering the number of children we have and the period of extended infertility from EBF, we have not had to use [systematic] NFP that much.
   Ecological breastfeeding has had enhanced benefits for our family. The doctors in Boston specifically wished to reduce the number of ovulations occurring over my lifetime. Having had an extended period of infertility from ecological breastfeeding coupled with the lack of ovulation during pregnancy, I have had a natural reduction in the number of ovulations. We also have been thankful for the fact that there is a connection (well known in the medical community) between nursing a baby and a reduction in breast cancer. The longer a woman breastfeeds, the more she is protected against breast cancer.
   Certainly there has been a great deal of trust in the Lord. That however is part of our beautiful faith. We have prayed to achieve a balance between being generous and prudent, believing that our children need a mother. Strangely enough, we have been told by some that we are not trusting in the Lord as they feel that we should not be using [systematic] NFP at all. We believe that we have had a serious reason to use it for a short time. At the same time, we have had many individuals who have said that we are not being prudent and that we should be removing my ovaries. Again, we have prayed to achieve a balance. Thus it is in prayer that we have made our decisions and certainly we are thankful that we have 8 beautiful children, our eldest being 19 years of age. We have always asked the doctors after testing if there were any real medical reason not to have another child. Once the doctors gave the go ahead, we let God do the rest and felt that we were not to question new life each month.
   The Lord is kind and merciful. We are thankful not only for our children, but for the gift of ecological breastfeeding, its benefits and the ability to use [systematic] natural family planning when necessary.
 
Tomorrow: Co-sleeping made the difference!

Sheila Kippley
Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood
Natural Family Planning
(online manual)
www.nfpandmore.org

Breastfeeding: Going for the Gold for how long?

Saturday, August 2nd, 2008

Breastfeeding: Going for the Gold for how long? By Tracy Reeves
          #2 in WBW series
After learning about the benefits of extended breastfeeding in our NFP
class, I planned to nurse my son for at least 2 years.  The more we read
about nursing, and the more that we experienced all of the benefits for
ourselves, the more my husband and I felt convicted to allow him to nurse
as long as he chose.  He was still nursing at 3 years, 4 years, 5
years…  Many people see a child nursing that long and think that
something is wrong, and that they will never stop without “help”.  When
my son was about 5 1/2 years old, we had a conversation in which the
subject of him eventually not nursing came up.  He was devastated at the
thought, and despite my assurances that someday he would not need or want
to nurse and that until then he was free to do so, he cried and cried.
He simply could not imagine life without that comfort.

About 3 months later, he was completely weaned!

His nursings just got farther and farther apart, and he eventually
stopped.  He got sick shortly afterward, and I offered to nurse him then
for the antibodies, and he politely refused!  About a month after his
last nursing, I talked to him about it.  I asked if he missed it, if he
was sad?  No, he told me, he simply didn’t need to nurse anymore, and
that was that.

I have a couple of friends with older nurslings, and they joke that when
they send their children off to college, the kids will have to form a
support group since they won’t be able to nurse anymore.  I offer my
story in the hopes that other mothers in a similar situation, as well as
those who don’t understand the place nursing can have for an older child,
will see that these children really are fulfilling a need by continued
breastfeeding, and they really will stop when they no longer have that
need.

Tomorrow: Prevention is the Best Medicine

Sheila Kippley
Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood
Natural Family Planning (an online manual)
www.nfpandmore.org

Breastfeeding: Contemplating the Baby

Friday, August 1st, 2008

Breastfeeding: Contemplating the Baby by Mrs. Darwin
          #1 in WBW series

Here’s a confession: I haven’t been to a Holy Hour or sat in Eucharistic Adoration for a long time. I know that we have Adoration at our parish, but I’ve never looked into the times or dropped by. And when I have gone in the past, I’ve been the fidgety sort of person who needs a rosary or a devotional booklet or the missalette or something to keep my mind engaged,or I start wandering off into the most banal inanities. To be honest, I haven’t taken part in much adoration because I thought that I wasn’t much good at it.

But lately I’ve found myself spending many hours engaged in contemplation of our new baby. As we lay together I’ll watch her nursing or sleeping and find myself gazing at her perfectly round little head or her cheeks (just like her sisters’!) or her sweet pointy little chin. Or I’ll think of how she might behave when she’s older and wonder if she’ll be like the bigger girls in various aspects of her personality. I can even get all worked up about how one day she’ll be all grown up and getting married, and I’ll watch her walking down the aisle (snuff!). And before I know it, half an hour has passed.

So it’s obvious that I can contemplate. I just need to extrapolate what I’m doing with the baby to contemplation of our Lord or of religious subjects.

One of the first aids that comes to mind is having a large stock of images to pull from. I can gaze at the baby and simply enjoy her beauty, but I also have memories of her sisters at that age, of my own siblings, hopes for her future, and a daily knowledge of her health and activities. So when I’m looking at her I don’t just stare blankly, but I’m interacting with her not just physically, but also mentally with the idea of her. In the same fashion, having a large store of devotional material, whether it be hymns, Bible verses, religious art, or ideas from the vast body of Christian thought, won’t mean that I’ll be fortified against any distraction. If my mind does wander, however, it will be much more likely to wander toward something worth incorporating into my contemplation rather than something stupid and unedifying.

I also engage with Baby. I talk to her about whatever pops into my mind,although since I’m focused on her it tends to be something regarding her. I tell her how sweet she is, how much I love her, that she has bright eyes, that her sisters better stop jumping on the bed… Even though I could say anything to her because she doesn’t understand any of it, she holds my attention. There’s my next aid to contemplation. When I love something, everything relates back to what I love. So actively working to strengthen my love for God means that when I sit in contemplation of him every thought or distraction will automatically lead me deeper into meditation about Him and interaction with Him.

Sometimes Baby and I just lay quietly together. She doesn’t do much more than eat and then sleep as of yet, and since I’m her source of food I have to take the time to sit or lay still for as long as it takes to feed her and then get her settled. It’s very pleasant and relaxing to have this peaceful time with her, time in which I’m not required to do anything but be. Brendan and I (before we had children) used to just sit quietly with each other in the evenings. (Now that we have toddlers, we can rarely sit still, or sit quietly. When we do, it’s usually out of sheer exhaustion.) And it’s not always necessary, when in prayer, to be actively thinking about something. I recall hearing once that Bishop Sheen always spent an hour every day in front of the Eucharist. “I wasn’t always awake,” he said, “but I was always there.” Sometimes just being in the presence of the beloved is enough. God told Moses that his name is I AM — the eternal now. To be with God, existing only in this present moment for Him, is of greater worth than carefully crafted devotions or elaborate prayer routines, and far more refreshing.

Unfortunately, it’s harder for me to sit quietly with God than to read a spiritual book or do something that keeps my mind engaged. Still, I have a lifetime to work on it, and a good spiritual companion in Baby.

http://darwincatholic.blogspot.com/2006/03/contemplating-baby.html

Tomorrow: Going for the Gold but for how long?

Sheila Kippley
Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood
Natural Family Planning
(an online manual)
www.nfpandmore.org