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NFP: Differences between CCL and NFP International

Sunday, August 17th, 2008

Differences between NFP International and CCL International

Inquirers have asked us to state the substantive differences between what is taught by Natural Family Planning International and what is currently taught by the Couple to Couple League International.  The differences are clear. 

Background.  We founded both organizations—CCL in 1971 and NFPI in 2004.  We brought to the League in 1971 three charisms or perspectives.  This became known as the Triple Strand approach to teaching NFP.
 1.  We taught ecological breastfeeding as a form of NFP.   
 2.  We taught the biblically based covenant theology of sexuality as a way to support Humanae Vitae and to explain the meaning of the marriage act.  This concept can be stated in 17 words.  “Sexual intercourse is intended by God to be at least implicitly a renewal of the marriage covenant.”  This concept easily lends itself to consideration of what is involved when man and wife enter into that covenant.
 3.  We were open to all the signs of fertility and developed different rules for different situations. 
    We directed and guided the League for 32 years.  In late 2003 a separation occurred.  In 2004 the new CCLI management decided to terminate its international activities in languages other than English and Spanish.  Later in 2004 we formed NFP International to support what we had previously started in other European languages and to keep our traditional Triple Strand program alive and well via the internet.  In 2005 we opened the NFPI Website, www.NFPandmore.org, and published our online manual titled Natural Family Planning
 
Changes.  In December, 2007 CCL announced significant changes to the traditional program.  CCL titled its announcement an EXTREME MAKEOVER, and the title reflected the changes it made.
 
1.  CCL dropped the teaching of ecological breastfeeding as a form of natural family planning. 
   On the contrary, we continue to believe that that eco-breastfeeding definitely IS a form of natural family planning.  We believe that it is God’s own plan for spacing babies and therefore the world’s oldest form of NFP.  We further believe that couples deserve to learn about breastfeeding not only as part of God’s plan for healthy babies and mothers but also as part of his plan for baby care and natural baby spacing.
    We know from scientific studies that eco-breastfeeding DOES space babies IF mothers follow the natural mothering pattern first described in Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing: The Ecology of Natural Mothering.  We also know that there are misunderstandings about breastfeeding’s influence on baby spacing.  Therefore we are doing what we can to provide the proper information and practical help.
 a.  The preceding book (classic 1974 Harper & Row edition) has been republished (Lulu, 2008, quality paperback).
 b.  To help mothers better understand more clearly the baby-care behaviors usually necessary to experience breastfeeding’s natural infertility, Sheila has also written The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor (Lulu, 2008). 
 c.  In our NFP manual, Natural Family Planning, a chapter is devoted to ecological breastfeeding, and we teach this material in the NFPI three-meeting course.  

2.  In its “extreme makeover,” CCL dropped the covenant theology of sexuality stated above.  CCL has replaced this with an interpretation of the “Theology of the Body” (TOB) developed by Pope John Paul II between 1979 and 1984.  
    The papal TOB is widely praised and rightly so, but experts recognize that it is huge and difficult to understand.  Our experience is that because the TOB covers so much, it needs careful definition.  Further, unless you are reading the entire Theology of the Body and/or are taking a good course on it, what you hear or learn is someone’s interpretation, not the TOB itself.
    We are pleased to note that when the Pope in 1994 was addressing the laity about the meaning of the marriage act, he incorporated the idea that it ought to be a renewal of the marriage covenant.  “In the conjugal act, husband and wife are called to confirm in a responsible way the mutual gift of self which they have made to each other in the marriage covenant” (Letter to Families, n.12).
    Our experience is that couples can grasp and understand this basic concept almost intuitively once they hear it.  Therefore, we continue to believe that covenant theology of sexuality provides a succinct and very workable way to support and explain the teaching of Humanae Vitae.

3.  In its “extreme makeover,” CCL dropped the concept of having different rules for different situations.  It has replaced this with what they call a single rule, but its modifications for different situations effectively make it into three rules. 
    We continue to think it is useful to have different rules for different situations. 

4.  Also included in its “extreme makeover” is a different perspective about how to convey the teaching of the Church regarding the proper use of natural family planning.  Humanae Vitae uses “serious reasons” in section 10 and “just causes” in section 16 to describe the qualifying reasons for the morally good use of NFP. 
    The CCL Student Guide mentions only “just reasons.” 
    In NFPI we use the phrase “sufficiently serious reasons,” as we have done for many years, to convey the meaning of both of these sections of Humanae Vitae. 

Cost: The CCL 3-meeting course costs $135.00.  The NFPI 3-meeting course suggested donation is anywhere from $45 to $85–depending on what the teaching couple decides to offer by way of books in addition to the Natural Family Planning manual used at the NFPI classes.  Our pastor wanted us to charge at least $100 or $125 for the classes because that was the cost for other marriage preparation programs in our area.  Sheila didn’t feel right about that amount.  The pastor, Sheila and I settled on $70.00.  At our classes, Sheila and I give each attending couple the NFPI manual, and the BD digital thermometer. 
For further details, see our postings in various categories of blogs (upper right corner of website).

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality
www.nfpandmore.org

Natural Family Planning Teaching

Sunday, May 18th, 2008

STANDARDS FOR TEACHING WITH NFP INTERNATIONAL
The NFP International Program is a faith-based program of instruction that is unique in one or more respects.  Its NFP teaching program includes ecological breastfeeding, the covenant theology of sexuality, moral teaching about specific behaviors, a choice-based approach to systematic NFP, a call to generosity in terms of traditional Catholic teaching, and an effort to let Christ be the primary reason for the decision not to use unnatural forms of birth control.  The unique character of the NFPI program attracts some but not all.  In what follows, we clarify these characteristics so that prospective teachers will understand the program and its potential to have life-changing effects in those who experience it.

Faith-based.  We believe that the most important question in life is this:  “Have I let Jesus Christ become my personal Lord and Savior in such a way that I submit my life to Him?”  Specifically with regard to the NFPI apostolate, “Am I willing to submit the exercise of my sexual powers to his dominion?”  We believe that we are called to let Jesus be the King and Center of our lives and to act accordingly.  We believe that God has a plan for love, marriage, and sexuality.  We believe that He has not left us orphans in a wilderness of conflicting ideas but promised to send the Holy Spirit to guide the Apostles and their successors throughout the ages.  We believe that Jesus founded the Catholic Church upon the apostles with Peter as their visible head; we believe He kept his promise at Pentecost and that He continues to keep that promise in our day in and through his Church.  We believe with St. Paul that we have been saved through the obedience of Christ who “became obedient unto death, even death on a cross” (Phil 2:8).  We believe that to accept on faith the teaching of the Catholic Church regarding sexual morality including birth control is not at all denigrating to one’s intelligence but is an excellent exercise of our wills illumined by faith.  That is, we believe that to accept on faith the teaching of the Church affirmed in Humanae Vitae is to accept it as the teaching of Christ Himself through his chosen vehicle. 

Such faith-based acceptance of the teaching of the Catholic Church does not diminish our respect for other reasons based on nature, science, philosophy, and theology.  Similarly, our respect for these various reasons does not diminish our respect for the faith-based decision to accept the teaching of the Church because of belief that such teaching is ultimately the work of the Holy Spirit.  Truly, natural family planning is an area in which faith and science meet in a harmonious way.

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality
Natural Family Planning
, available at www.nfpandmore.org

Natural Family Planning: NFPI Online Manual

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

One of the joys of having free instruction via the online Natural Family Planning manual is helping others around the globe. Some have contacted us for counseling; a few have been referred to us by their NFP teacher.
   We believe that our NFPI program remains the most complete program in the world. It alone, along with associates in Europe and a few other places, promotes ecological breastfeeding, supports Humanae Vitae with the covenant theology of sexuality, offers a wide variety of methodological options, and it appears to be alone in stating that certain immoral behaviors are wrong.
   We will make some changes because of our teaching experience with the manual, but essentially the content will remain the same, the same content we have taught since 1971. Our goal was to have a manual that was free, short, and easy to understand. Thus we decided to use a simple question-and-answer format.

Improved Online Manual
We used the manual for classroom instruction starting in January and have made some changes as a result of that experience. Although the content remains essentially the same, we added material to Chapters 1 and 2, and we switched Chapters 3 and 4.  A revised Index will be added later. The second most popular reason why people visit our website is to download all or parts of the manual. We encourage those who download the manual to print all four chapters on 3-hole paper for insertion into a binder. The improved online manual is still under 100 pages.

Improved Chart
The chart at the Home Page of the NFPI website has also been improved. We continue to provide this blank chart for anyone’s use free of charge. Learner couples can download on 3-hole paper and add the charts to their NFP binder.

USCCB approved: The USCCB approved our online manual and placed NFPI on their website as an approved Home Study program. This was an unexpected blessing. We are committed to the NFP movement and the approval of the USCCB meant a lot to us.

Thanks
We frequently receive thanks for our website manual when someone seeks counseling. Here are a few to share with you.

“First I would like to thank you for the extensive information available on your website. My husband and I are unable to attend an NFP class, and are now learning the cross-check method thanks to you. Thank you for making the information and charts available without cost.”

“We cannot thank you enough for following God’s plan for your life and helping numerous Catholic parents discover NFP, ecological breastfeeding, and the true beauty of natural mothering.”

“I just wanted to thank you and John for your work at NFP International. I had missed your influence at CCL and was glad to see you are still involved in the work of teaching NFP. Your tutorial on the method has been a big help to me tonight–thank you so much for making it available for free!”

“I do agree that if more NFP teachers were familiar with the Seven Standards (and even the “Six” standards once solids are introduced) that we would see more moms with postponed infertility. Couples like us are so, so blessed to have you and your husband to guide us and teach us to have a loving and fulfilling family life through breastfeeding and NFP! I really felt called by the Holy Spirit to let you know this.”

My thanks to those who have written.  I would ask every reader to pray for the NFPI apostolate and for us personally. 

Sheila Kippley
NFP International
Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood (Sophia)
Natural Family Planning (e-book at this website)