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NFP, Eco-Breastfeeding and Baby-Wearing

Sunday, July 9th, 2017

Here are the advantages of baby-wearing as listed by Gretchen Pimentel at our website.

“It helps me to bond with my baby and keep him safe.
My babies spend most of their early days in a carrier of some sort. If not for that, they would NOT have had much human contact since I am busy with managing a household and other young children who have a lot of needs as well. The youngest baby would likely languish in a crib, playpen, or other object because it would be unsafe to put the baby down where other toddlers might hurt the baby. I believe my baby is safest on my person where I can hear and see his breathing and movement….like they have been on mamas for thousands of years.

It helps me breastfeed.
I have learned to breastfeed in a carrier so that no one is the wiser. It is literally so modest and discreet in my simple, two shouldered, German style wrap carriers that I can go on with my daily routine flawlessly. I believe this may contribute to my ability and willingness to breastfeed longer, which benefits my baby.

It helps me with NFP.
Babywearing naturally holds my fertility at bay, just as it does in more naturally minded cultures around the globe. I no longer ever have to rush my baby off of the breast with the help of a carrier. Breastfeeding in my favorite style of carrier is so discreet that an onlooker cannot possibly be aware of when my baby is breastfeeding.

When it became impossible for me to nap daily as recommended in Kippley’s Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding because of other young toddlers in my household I have found that, for me, having the baby nap ON me in a carrier (latching on and off as he pleases for those long, lazy pre- and post-nap nursings) completely kept my fertility from returning, unlike with a previous child, whom I did not carry as often. My fertility, in fact, returned the very week that my most recent youngest baby outgrew the need to be carried as often and insisted on coming down from his perch to play and interact with his brothers more.

It helps me on my faith journey as a Catholic.
Babywearing facilitates the sacraments in my home. Confession is much easier when I can bring my little nursling in the confessional with me tucked safely in his carrier. I do not need a babysitter, which can be an impediment to going at all when I cannot be away from the baby long during the very frequent feeding stages. Mass is amazingly easier with baby peacefully in a carrier. Mine have all fussed much less in a carrier, thus we are less of a disturbance to our fellow parishioners. I can attend more regularly without assistance, have free hands to manage toddlers, and can pay more attention to the mass when the baby is content in a carrier. The discreet breastfeeding helps me not to disturb others by exiting the pew often if I have to nurse.

It reduces sibling rivalry.
My two toddlers are not jealous of the little “lump” in the baby carrier, as he becomes sort of inconspicuous and mommy’s arms are free to hug and kiss them as they please.

It strengthens and tones my muscles and helps me lose postpartum weight.
Wearing my babies helps me keep moving which, in addition to naturally lulling the baby to sleep for naps when needed, allows me to stay active enough to lose the postpartum pounds. It also mimics the weight bearing exercises I was required to do in college as a varsity athlete. I can actually feel superior tone in my back and leg muscles due to correct posture in babywearing. (To reap the rewards of this important benefit, I would stress that you must bear the weight near your center of gravity, use correct posture, and hold the baby snug enough that your legs bear the load.)

It makes me a more calm and better parent.
I no longer am stuck in one place to nurse while I get nervous about things on my “to do” list. I can do things while I nurse. However, if I want to sit and nurse to give my self a much needed break, I can do that also in a carrier with the added benefit that I can even get up to answer the phone if I so desire. In short, it gives me flexibility. I can do any manner of errands easily with a nursling which causes me less stress than if I were “tied down” to my house with errands left undone. I can also nonchalantly play “hooky” and go sip a decaf latte from a fancy coffee shop while window shopping because of discreet public breastfeeding and the ability to have my baby nap well “on the road.”

And last but not least, it gets my house clean!
I can do all manner of cleaning in my carriers, as I do not use cleaning products with harmful chemicals in them. I also can vacuum quite well, with an added bonus that the sound of the vacuum and movement of my body has never failed to soothe a fussy baby to sleep in my home! This is a special trick I use for a sick child, as well.”
Gretchen’s full article on baby-wearing can be found at the NFPI website.

Sheila Kippley

Natural Family Planning and Ecological Breastfeeding

Sunday, July 2nd, 2017

A mother recently shared her experience with ecological breastfeeding.
“My daughter and I have a beautiful breastfeeding relationship.  I am still following all of the 7 standards, and I love nursing her so much.  She is steadily gaining weight and looks and acts both healthy and happy with nothing but exclusive breast milk.  Before and during my pregnancy, I heard so many breastfeeding horror stories that I think I was really paranoid in the first few months of her life.  However, now I feel that I am trusting myself and my own intuition as a mother and allowing us to have our own pattern without feeling that I need to abide by so many different pieces of advice or recommendations in terms of frequency, etc.  She and I nurse very frequently because that is our pattern. I have stopped counting diapers and feedings obsessively and tried to read her needs rather than focusing so much on the numbers.  She is so beautiful and seems to be thriving so I have a lot more confidence now.

Thank you again for all of your advice and kind words; they really made a difference in my peace of mind. I have also really enjoyed the resources you recommended and feel so much more confident in breastfeeding and gentle parenting as a result.  I will definitely keep charting and send in my chart if I have any further questions or if we have trouble conceiving our second child.

As far as the baby-wearing wrap, I absolutely love it and sometimes she isn’t content anywhere else but wrapped against my chest!  It is a lifesaver during Mass and going out to restaurants, etc.  She loves being a part of everything I’m doing, from dishes to laundry to walks to gardening, and she regularly naps in the wrap.  I really love and agree with this concept of exterior gestation and it is completely aligned with eco-breastfeeding.”

Sheila:  Baby-wearing is not one of the Seven Standards but I found a variety of carriers helpful when taking walks, doing certain activities, shopping, etc. with the baby.

Next week:  Advantages of baby-wearing.

Sheila Kippley

Breastfeeding: Is it Contraception or an NFP Method or Neither?

Sunday, June 18th, 2017

It may surprise you, but Ecological Breastfeeding is controversial among Catholics.  Some say breastfeeding is a form of contraception.  They say that a breastfeeding mother is avoiding conception with breastfeeding’s natural suppression of ovulation.  But the baby is nursing not the mother, and every nursing mother knows that she cannot force a baby to nurse.  When Saint John Paul II promoted breastfeeding for health reasons, he also noted its natural child spacing effect.

Others say that breastfeeding can’t be called a natural family planning method because it does not involve charting fertility/infertility or follow a fertility awareness system.  But for about 94% of breastfeeding moms, their first period is all they need by way of fertility awareness.

In reality, Ecological Breastfeeding is definitely a form of natural baby spacing.  That’s why we teach that there are two distinct forms of natural family planning—systematic NFP and Ecological Breastfeeding.  Realistically, couples who learn Ecological Breastfeeding from NFPI and intend to use it as their only “spacer” will probably be charting in the later months of amenorrhea so that they can accurately determine the temperature-based “due date” for their next baby if they achieve pregnancy before their first menses.

I’m reviewing some standards set by a USCCB committee in which it says several times that all phases of the reproductive cycle must be taught.  In a high school physiology class I was taught by a wonderful teacher that the reproductive cycle ended with breastfeeding, not childbirth.  She knew something about the effect that breastfeeding had on inhibiting ovulation.  Of course, eventually menstruation and fertility returns for the nursing mother, and the reproductive cycle can start once again.  It is unfortunate that this has been lost in part of the NFP movement.

Let’s do a survey!  Let’s ask 10 ecologically breastfeeding mothers if they are practicing contraception.  Of course, their answer is NO.  Then let’s ask these same breastfeeding mothers if they are practicing a form of natural family planning.  Of course, their answer would be YES because they are using the most natural form of natural baby spacing—God’s plan for both mother and baby.  However, it seems that some of those involved with NFP in the Church will say the answer to the second question is NO for  eco-breastfeeding mothers.

These mothers are not practicing NFP?  Really?

Any comments on this dilemma are welcome!

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding