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NFP: Differences between CCL and NFP International

Sunday, August 17th, 2008

Differences between NFP International and CCL International

Inquirers have asked us to state the substantive differences between what is taught by Natural Family Planning International and what is currently taught by the Couple to Couple League International.  The differences are clear. 

Background.  We founded both organizations—CCL in 1971 and NFPI in 2004.  We brought to the League in 1971 three charisms or perspectives.  This became known as the Triple Strand approach to teaching NFP.
 1.  We taught ecological breastfeeding as a form of NFP.   
 2.  We taught the biblically based covenant theology of sexuality as a way to support Humanae Vitae and to explain the meaning of the marriage act.  This concept can be stated in 17 words.  “Sexual intercourse is intended by God to be at least implicitly a renewal of the marriage covenant.”  This concept easily lends itself to consideration of what is involved when man and wife enter into that covenant.
 3.  We were open to all the signs of fertility and developed different rules for different situations. 
    We directed and guided the League for 32 years.  In late 2003 a separation occurred.  In 2004 the new CCLI management decided to terminate its international activities in languages other than English and Spanish.  Later in 2004 we formed NFP International to support what we had previously started in other European languages and to keep our traditional Triple Strand program alive and well via the internet.  In 2005 we opened the NFPI Website, www.NFPandmore.org, and published our online manual titled Natural Family Planning
 
Changes.  In December, 2007 CCL announced significant changes to the traditional program.  CCL titled its announcement an EXTREME MAKEOVER, and the title reflected the changes it made.
 
1.  CCL dropped the teaching of ecological breastfeeding as a form of natural family planning. 
   On the contrary, we continue to believe that that eco-breastfeeding definitely IS a form of natural family planning.  We believe that it is God’s own plan for spacing babies and therefore the world’s oldest form of NFP.  We further believe that couples deserve to learn about breastfeeding not only as part of God’s plan for healthy babies and mothers but also as part of his plan for baby care and natural baby spacing.
    We know from scientific studies that eco-breastfeeding DOES space babies IF mothers follow the natural mothering pattern first described in Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing: The Ecology of Natural Mothering.  We also know that there are misunderstandings about breastfeeding’s influence on baby spacing.  Therefore we are doing what we can to provide the proper information and practical help.
 a.  The preceding book (classic 1974 Harper & Row edition) has been republished (Lulu, 2008, quality paperback).
 b.  To help mothers better understand more clearly the baby-care behaviors usually necessary to experience breastfeeding’s natural infertility, Sheila has also written The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor (Lulu, 2008). 
 c.  In our NFP manual, Natural Family Planning, a chapter is devoted to ecological breastfeeding, and we teach this material in the NFPI three-meeting course.  

2.  In its “extreme makeover,” CCL dropped the covenant theology of sexuality stated above.  CCL has replaced this with an interpretation of the “Theology of the Body” (TOB) developed by Pope John Paul II between 1979 and 1984.  
    The papal TOB is widely praised and rightly so, but experts recognize that it is huge and difficult to understand.  Our experience is that because the TOB covers so much, it needs careful definition.  Further, unless you are reading the entire Theology of the Body and/or are taking a good course on it, what you hear or learn is someone’s interpretation, not the TOB itself.
    We are pleased to note that when the Pope in 1994 was addressing the laity about the meaning of the marriage act, he incorporated the idea that it ought to be a renewal of the marriage covenant.  “In the conjugal act, husband and wife are called to confirm in a responsible way the mutual gift of self which they have made to each other in the marriage covenant” (Letter to Families, n.12).
    Our experience is that couples can grasp and understand this basic concept almost intuitively once they hear it.  Therefore, we continue to believe that covenant theology of sexuality provides a succinct and very workable way to support and explain the teaching of Humanae Vitae.

3.  In its “extreme makeover,” CCL dropped the concept of having different rules for different situations.  It has replaced this with what they call a single rule, but its modifications for different situations effectively make it into three rules. 
    We continue to think it is useful to have different rules for different situations. 

4.  Also included in its “extreme makeover” is a different perspective about how to convey the teaching of the Church regarding the proper use of natural family planning.  Humanae Vitae uses “serious reasons” in section 10 and “just causes” in section 16 to describe the qualifying reasons for the morally good use of NFP. 
    The CCL Student Guide mentions only “just reasons.” 
    In NFPI we use the phrase “sufficiently serious reasons,” as we have done for many years, to convey the meaning of both of these sections of Humanae Vitae. 

Cost: The CCL 3-meeting course costs $135.00.  The NFPI 3-meeting course suggested donation is anywhere from $45 to $85–depending on what the teaching couple decides to offer by way of books in addition to the Natural Family Planning manual used at the NFPI classes.  Our pastor wanted us to charge at least $100 or $125 for the classes because that was the cost for other marriage preparation programs in our area.  Sheila didn’t feel right about that amount.  The pastor, Sheila and I settled on $70.00.  At our classes, Sheila and I give each attending couple the NFPI manual, and the BD digital thermometer. 
For further details, see our postings in various categories of blogs (upper right corner of website).

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality
www.nfpandmore.org

Natural Family Planning: Is It Just “Catholic Birth Control”?

Sunday, July 6th, 2008

(This is a continuation of the article last week.)

Self-centered or God-centered?  Perhaps another meaning of the title question is this: is chaste systematic NFP a self-centered form of “Catholic birth control” or is it a truly Catholic and God-centered response to the very real needs of the family, the Church and society?  Another way of putting the question is to ask whether the Church has any norms to be followed and, is so, what are they, and what constitutes the self-centered or God-centered use of NFP?

Vatican II’s document on The Church in the Modern World (Gaudium et Spes) has a ringing call to generosity in the service of life.  “Marriage and conjugal love are by their nature ordained toward the begetting and educating of children. Children are really the supreme gift of marriage and contribute very substantially to the welfare of their parents” (n.50), and it continues from there.  Sections 10 and 16 of Humanae Vitae speak about both the need to have sufficiently serious reasons to use NFP to avoid pregnancy and also about the sorts of reasons that justify its use. 

The common presumption is that because chaste periodic abstinence is difficult, couples who practice true systematic NFP must have sufficiently serious reasons for doing so.  Or at least they must think they have such reasons in order to abstain in the face of their normal inclinations to engage in the marriage act.

Do they in fact have sufficiently serious reasons?  Truly, only God knows about any individual couple.  Does the couple regard children as “the supreme gift of marriage” and as contributing “very substantially to the welfare of their parents”?  Or do the spouses see additional children only as a liability?  Do they pray about this decision or are they influenced primarily by secular concerns and their peers?  Are they seeking to fulfill God’s plan for them?  Are they being honest with themselves and with God?  If they have a true surprise pregnancy, are they ready to accept and love that child as a special gift from the Lord? 

Over the years I have learned that it is very easy to form rash judgments about couples who have families of various sizes.  Of some couples, one is tempted to wonder why they don’t have more than two children only to find out later that the wife has a serious health problem and they were lucky to have the two.  Of others one can be tempted to wonder why they have so many children.  Haven’t they heard about NFP?  And later you find out they know all about it, that they really love children, and that they have become Catholic providentialists.  To them I want to say, be sure to do ecological breastfeeding so that you give your children the best start in life and also benefit from God’s own plan for spacing babies.  It is one thing to have ten babies spaced over 20 – 25 years.  It is something entirely different to have 10 babies in 11 years and still have another 10 or 15 years of fertility.  

Ultimately, the proper use of systematic NFP is a matter of relationship with God and how one appreciates his gifts.  Life is a gift, and gifts are to be shared.  And yet there are times and circumstances when a couple can have sufficiently serious reasons to think that God is not calling them to invite another child into their family.  For them, NFP is also a gift.

John F Kippley
NFP International
www.NFPandmore.org
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality   

Natural Family Planning: Is It Just “Catholic Birth Control”?

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

As the 40th anniversary of Humanae Vitae approaches, there seems to be more discussion about natural family planning, at least on the internet, and the title question keeps coming up.  The question is deceptively simple; the answer is not. 

The end does not homogenize the means.  Some say that chaste abstinence and contraception are morally the same because they have the same purpose of avoiding pregnancy.  This is an excellent example of how sex can distort the thinking of otherwise sensible people.  In any other area of life, who would dare to say that the same end or purpose makes different means or ways of accomplishing that purpose morally the same?  Take peace in the Middle East.  Someone might say that the way to peace is to annihilate one of the parties in the conflict.  Others might say that the way to peace is through non-violent negotiation.  Morally the same?  Or take the common example of wanting to live in a nicer house you can’t afford right now.  How are you going to get that extra money?  Selling illegal drugs?  Or working to get a better but still honest job?  Morally the same?

Regarding almost every good goal in life, there are moral and immoral ways to get there.  This applies just as much to birth control as it does in every other area of life.  If anyone says that the practice of chaste abstinence is the same as contraception because they have the same purpose, such a person has demonstrated that he or she has not learned this basic rule of thinking: the end does not homogenize the means. 

Chaste abstinence or selective contraception?  Another twist to the question in the title is whether the couple practicing “NFP” is practicing chaste abstinence during the fertile time or resorting to contraceptive behaviors.  This does not mean only using condoms.  It also refers to engaging in masturbation, whether mutual or solitary, and/or marital sodomy such as Bill and Monica sex.  Any use of these immoral behaviors is selective contraception; it is not any form of NFP.

Ecological breastfeeding or systematic NFP?  There are two forms of natural family planning.  Ecological breastfeeding (EBF) is the form of nursing in which a mother fulfills her baby’s needs for frequent suckling and her full-time presence and in which the child’s frequent suckling postpones the return of the mother’s fertility.  It entails following the Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding – behavioral standards that ensure frequent suckling.  Mothers who follow these Standards will experience, on the average between 14 and 15 months between childbirth and their first menstruation.  The important point is that this form of NFP requires no justification by serious reason.  The mother is simply taking care of the needs of her baby; there is no way she can force the baby to breastfeed more often that he wants to.  Another great advantage of EBF is that it helps to ensure a long duration of breastfeeding.  Pope John Paul II in 1995 endorsed the recommendations of UNICEF and the WHO that mothers should breastfeed for at least two years.

To be continued next week.

John F Kippley
NFP International
www.NFPandmore.org
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality