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Natural Family Planning: Three Basic Realities

Sunday, February 22nd, 2015
Within the Catholic Church there is a great concern about a growing social acceptance of same-sex “marriage” even among Catholics.  However, with more than  95% of fertile-age married Catholics contravening Catholic teaching regarding birth control, what else can be expected?  It is this widespread acceptance of unnatural forms of birth control that has also given us widespread acceptance of homosexual sodomy parading as marriage.  So what can be done?
 
    I suggest that bishops need to get their priests on board with Humanae Vitae and provide the right kind of instruction before marriage.  What is generally offered now is very deficient.    This needs to start in 7th grade and continue through the high school years, and attitude formation needs to start with preparation for Holy Communion and Penance.   By the time a couple is married, they need to have internalized at least three basic realities.
 
1.  Sexual union is intended by God to be exclusively a marriage act.  Within marriage it ought to be a renewal of the faith, love, and for-better-and-for-worse commitment of their marriage covenant.  And marriage is an unbreakable covenant.
 
2.  Breasts are for breastfeeding.  Breastfeeding is so much better than alternative ways of baby-feeding that couples really need a serious reason not to breastfeed.  The kind of breastfeeding they should practice is Ecological breastfeeding according to the Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding.   Only this form of breastfeeding will normally provide an average of two years of spacing between babies.  It also maximizes all the dose-related emotional and health benefits of breastfeeding.   This should be taught starting in grade school. 
 
3.  They should know  all the common signs of fertility, not just the mucus sign taught by some almost fanatical proponents who either teach nothing about the temperature and cervix signs or cast aspersions on them.  In other words, engaged couples should have sufficient information so that they, not their teachers, can make informed choices.
John F. Kippley

Thanks for Natural Family Planning

Sunday, February 15th, 2015

Priests from various parts of the country have their engaged couples take the NFPI Home Study Course.  It has been my pleasure to take these engaged couples, and some married couples, through this distance-learning course.  They frequently express their appreciation.  Below are a few of those comments.
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“We have learned so much about the female reproductive system from this book and the sympto-thermal method.  We had no idea that we could tell the more and less fertile times for a woman by her mucus, changes in her cervix, and her temperature.  Once married, we plan on using this method to plan our family.”
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“I have attached the completed Home Study Questions for Chapters 1-3. You were right about learning A LOT!! Thank you so much for getting this back to me so quickly yesterday. Please let me know how I should proceed from here. I have already started reading the other chapters.”
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[The home study course] “is a great way for couples to educate themselves and also have different options that are proven to work.”
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“Great book. Super helpful. Thank you so much for offering a downloadable version, just what I needed right at that moment! …although, next time I think I’ll get the print edition, easier to read and share.”
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“Thank you for the easy-to-read and downloadable manual.  This manual has been helpful to us as we plan to start a family of our own! Thanks again for your ministry and desire to help others!”
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“Thank you so much for these clear and concise guidelines for a comprehensive NFP course! Your books and website have so much valuable information that you simply cannot find elsewhere! Your efforts have blessed me in so many ways! My husband and I have come to a much deeper understanding of God’s plan for marriage and family and you have provided us with the tools and knowledge to live it. I use your materials in teaching my children about living virtuously. You present these truths of the faith in such clear language it makes it so easy to transmit them to my children. I am so proud of my adult children and your work has made their formation in this area of the faith so much easier than it otherwise would have been. Thank you so much for your sacrificial work.”
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“I was delighted to find your website last night. We have been using ecological breastfeeding almost exclusively and my wife’s fertility is currently returning after our 6th child (at 19 months). We were once a teaching couple with CCL, but we left about 10 years ago when they started making all the changes.  We are finding we remember very little about the method we learned so well, and we can’t figure out who borrowed our old CCL manual. We are looking forward to reading this new book, Natural Family Planning: The Complete Approach.  Thank you both for putting this together.  I finished Chapter One last night and found it to be very well done, a great summary and a good refresher.”
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Sheila Kippley
NFPI Home Study Course

Natural Family Planning: Love and Life are Inseparable

Sunday, February 8th, 2015

Below is an excerpt on natural family planning from Fr. Dwight Campbell’s pro-life homily showing the connection of contraception and abortion, January 18, 2015.

“January 22 marks the 42nd anniversary of the dreadful Roe v. Wade Supreme Court decision, which overturned every state law in the country and permitted the killing of unborn children through abortion throughout the full nine months of pregnancy. Since that decision, between 55 and 60 million pre-born children have been killed in the womb – a veritable American Holocaust which still continues.

A few months ago Cardinal Sean O’Malley of Boston, the chairman of the U.S. Bishops committee on pro-life activities, reported under the Affordable Health Care Act (Obamacare), more than 1000 healthcare plans in our country now receive federal subsidies that cover for elective abortions – which means that our taxes dollars are being used by the federal government to kill unborn babies.

How did this happen? How did it come about that we, a largely Christian nation, have killed close to one third of all the children conceived in the womb over the past 42 years? In today’s homily, I’d like to “connect the dots” – that is, paint a picture and explain how we arrived at this point in our country.

To understand what has happened, we must go back to God’s plan for love, life, marriage and the family. In our 2nd reading today, St. Paul teaches: “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ, and whoever is joined to the Lord becomes on Spirit with him. [Therefore,] avoid immorality. . . the immoral person sins against his own body (1 Cor. 6:15 ff.).”  This applies above all in marriage.

In God’s plan for the marriage act, there is an inseparable link between love and life – between the unitive, or love-giving aspect of the marital act, and the procreative, or life-giving aspect. This is because we are made in God’s image and likeness, and in God Himself – the three persons of the Trinity – love and life are inseparable: God’s love is always life-giving; and human love, marital love, is intended by God to reflect divine love.

In other words, in the marital act there must be a total gift of self between the spouses; husband and wife cannot hold anything back, including their fertility. Every marital act must remain open to the possibility of cooperating with God’s life-creating love, and generating new human life:  a child. Vatican II teaches that in God’s plan, “authentic married love is caught up into divine love” (GS no. 48).

In God’s plan, because love and life are inseparable, one cannot have authentic marital love without openness to human life; and this is why the Church prohibits artificial birth control – whether it be contraception or sterilization.

If couples have a serious reason for postponing a pregnancy, they may use a natural means to do so. Natural Family Planning is based upon knowledge of a woman’s monthly reproductive cycle, and requires periodic abstinence – which actually helps to strengthen authentic love between spouses. When couples use NFP, every marital act remains open to life and to God’s potentially life-creating love.

To intentionally exclude the procreative aspect of marital love by some artificial means really de-forms the marital act, rendering it life-less, thereby excluding God from participating in the act. Contraceptive sex is lifeless sex, and lifeless sex is Godless sex.

Archbishop Listecki, in his “Love One Another” article from July 16, 2013, said:  “The contraceptive mentality attempts to separate the act of lovemaking from procreating. There is little doubt in my mind that contraception has created a type of selfishness, especially in the lives of young married couples. The child is seen as an afterthought to their security or convenience. Large families, and for many that is more than two children in a family, are often treated as an archaic concept.”

As Pope St. John Paul II teaches in his encyclical The Gospel of Life, when the two meanings of sexual relations, unitive and procreative, are artificially separated by contraception or sterilization, “the marriage union is betrayed and its fruitfulness is subjected to the caprice of the couple. Procreation then becomes the ‘enemy’ to be avoided in sexual activity” (no. 23).

And it is precisely this anti-child, anti-life mentality of contraception that leads to abortion. St. John Paul II makes this clear in The Gospel of Life when he says:  “The close connection, in mentality, between the practice of contraception and abortion is becoming increasingly obvious” (no. 13). I like to call abortion the “flip side” of contraception; people use contraception to avoid a child, and when contraception fails, as it often does, the “solution” is the “final solution”:  abort the child.

The great pro-life missionary, Fr. Paul Marx, O.S.B. – for whom I was privileged to work for two years while I was in the seminary – visited close to 100 countries preaching the pro-life message. Fr. Marx said, many times, “I never visited a country where there was with nice, clean contraception, and no abortion. In any country where there was contraception, there was always abortion. Always.”

Above is the first half of the homily.  For the full homily by Fr. Campbell, you may listen to the audio.
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For a good analysis of the right kind of natural family planning, review  “Your Right to Know.”  More information on love, marriage and sexuality is also available at the NFPI website.
Sheila Kippley