Archive for 2015

Natural Family Planning and Desiring the Marriage Act

Sunday, May 31st, 2015

I have seen some commentary about the “use” of the other that is almost angelistic, to use a word that does not appear in my word processor dictionary.  There is still the reality of concupiscence, the reality of those feelings that stimulate one or both spouses to desire the marriage act.  The Church’s moral theology has always recognized the truth in 1Cor 7:1-9.  That is, to put it briefly, that one of the purposes or legitimate functions of the marriage act is the relief of concupiscence.  Here I think it is important to distinguish between the invitation of one spouse as contrasted with a demand.  And, of course, the invitation should be in the context of a mutually helpful relationship in every part of their domestic household.  My point is that some of the talk against “using” the other spouse seems to be denying the moral acceptability of admitting that if it were not for these feelings the initiating spouse would not be thinking about and desiring the marriage act.  There are many ways that spouses can express their self-giving love for each other, many of which are appropriate also for siblings, cousins, and neighbors.  But the feelings that lead to desire for the marriage act are not exactly the same as, say, the feelings of appreciation that lead to helping with the housework, etc.

John Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant

Natural Family Planning and Unchaste Behavior

Sunday, May 24th, 2015

Chapter 1 of our NFP manual, Natural Family Planning: The Complete Approach, is a New Evangelization effort.  Section 6 of that chapter is titled, “The Bible and Church teaching on contraception.”  There we present biblical teachings, a short statement on the Theology of the Body, and an even shorter statement of the covenant theology.  After quoting Humanae Vitae n. 14, we provide a list of behaviors that seek to render procreation impossible.  Included in that list are masturbation, whether mutual or solitary, and “marital sodomy, (anal sex or oral sex).”  Then we ask: “Why do we mention masturbation and marital sodomy?”  Our answer: “It’s because we listen and read.  People have told us that at one time they were practicing their own form of NFP with masturbation during the fertile time…..  We have read in the daily papers that in some parts of the United States about half of high school teenagers have experienced oral sex, that is, oral sodomy.  It take no genius to figure out that if they somehow attend an NFP course and hear abstinence during the fertile time, they may start thinking in terms of their previous behavior unless they learn that it’s immoral.  Chaste abstinence is the pregnancy-avoiding “method” of true systematic NFP.”

Unfortunately, what we teach is far more than what you will find in most of the other NFP programs.  Some say nothing about morality and religion.  It is just non-contraceptive birth control with a statement such as “avoid genital contact during the fertile time,” and that’s obviously open to a pragmatic, biology-only interpretation.  Some do not include Church teaching because they believe the method they teach stands on its own merits as a method of birth control.   In today’s culture, chaste abstinence must be taught.

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant

Natural Family Planning & Ecological Breastfeeding: The Seven Standards Do Work

Sunday, May 17th, 2015

Almost all mothers can enjoy the natural spacing of their children’s births with ecological breastfeeding.    God in His wisdom gave us a way to nourish and nurture our children and to space the birth of our babies.

Mothers who remain with their babies and nurse frequently day and night by following the Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding will usually have, on average, 14 to 15 months without any menstruation.

Research has shown that frequent and unrestricted nursing day and night provides natural infertility after childbirth, and that it is the short intervals between feedings that keep the reproductive system at rest.  These short intervals are common among those mothers following the Seven Standards.  The Seven Standards are simply maternal behaviors associated with an extended period of natural amenorrhea.

I have permission to quote from a breastfeeding survey which arrived recently.  The mother lives in Sweden and practiced the Seven Standards with her first baby.  Remember, I mentioned above the importance of having short intervals between feedings.  She and her husband wanted another child, so they lengthened one interval so that her fertility would return.  Here is what she said:

“Baby #1 was 18 months when my husband and I really wanted to have another baby.  I was still in breastfeeding amenorrhea.  I went to visit a friend and stayed away for 5-6 hours, knowing Baby would be emotionally well with Dad.  It was a sudden change in nursing frequency which quickly brought back my period.  I was fertile right away after that and conceived.  I deliberately “broke out of” amenorrhea so to speak.  Previous to this separation, I had never gone so many hours without nursing.  My breasts were full and Baby nursed happily on my return.  It was the sudden change that brought back my fertility.  I made sure it wasn’t gradual because we wanted to conceive.

“After this one experience, though, I continued nursing like before day and night.  After getting pregnant I kept nursing, but during the pregnancy the nursings got more and more infrequent.  Baby said it tasted funny/yucky.  It was painful and uncomfortable for me to nurse and my milk supply dropped.  The longest Baby went without nursing during the pregnancy was 5 days, the 5 days prior to delivery.

“Once in labour I nursed Baby and realized I would probably tandem nurse.  After the birth of Baby #2, Baby #1 wanted to nurse frequently again.  For the first 2 months postpartum, Baby #1 nursed up to 3-4 times a day.  At 3 months postpartum Baby #1 nursed once a day, in the mornings (first thing!).  At 7.5 months postpartum, Baby #1 would skip his daily nurse once in a while until he stopped altogether at 9.5 months postpartum.  He was 3 years, 7 months and 2 weeks old when he nursed for the last time!  He still sleeps in our room, but in his own bed.”
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Mothers are encouraged to print out the breastfeeding survey, complete their experiences with ecological breastfeeding, and return to NFPI using the address on the survey.

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor