Archive for 2019

Natural Family Planning: A Culture of Life Needed

Sunday, August 18th, 2019

Shortly after watching multiple accounts of the Dayton killings just about an hour north of my home in Cincinnati, I have to wonder if this killer or the one in El Paso was ever the recipient of any effort to teach him the Ten Commandments.

Some people are well acquainted with President George Washington’s Farewell address in which he said that “religion and morality are the indispensable supports” of a democracy.  A bit later in the Address he responds to those who think otherwise.  Contemporary secularized USA certainly illustrates the truth of his statement.

It occurs to me that the time is ripe for a massive petition to the Supreme Court to enshrine somehow the Washington statements into Court decisions.  Wasn’t it sometime in the 1950s or so that a Court decision banned the reading of the Bible in public school classrooms etc.?  That just compounded the damage to our culture provided by the Blaine anti-Catholic amendments.

The atheists and the Planned Parenthood folks have been running the country’s educational system.  It’s time to get back to basics.  It’s time for the Courts to realize in practical ways that it is for the benefit of the country to have faith-based schools teach morality.  And it should take place now, before the rapidly multiplying Muslim communities make legal the teaching of Islam but not Judaism or Christianity in public schools.  Somehow, every student should learn the Ten Commandments.  They can learn them as divinely revealed or they can learn them as a natural development that is necessary for community peace and prosperity.  Or both.

I don’t know how to organize anything such as is needed, nor at 88 do I have the energy to do much about it.  But El Paso and Dayton certainly shout loudly about the need for such teachings as a start toward the redevelopment of a Culture of Life.

John F. Kippley

 

Natural Family Planning: The Covenant Theology

Sunday, August 11th, 2019

“I read your book Sex and the Marriage Covenant many years ago, and it had a profound effect on my understanding and on my priestly ministry.  I thank you for the wonderful work you have been engaged in over the years on behalf of the dignity of human life, Christian marriage, and human sexuality and the promotion of Natural Family Planning.  God bless you!”  (a priest in WV; August 2019))

That compliment was in response to a blog we ran during NFP Awareness Week, so we running that blog again.  (Also, due to computer problems, we did not have a new blog ready by deadline time.  The idea that the marriage act ought to be a renewal of the marriage covenant was new at the  time; the idea that the marriage act could be compared to Holy Communion was also unheard of at the time and proved controversial.  Some years later St. Pope John Paul II further developed the idea.)

John:  In our first years of marriage, I worked as a lay evangelist in Santa Clara, and one Saturday morning early in 1966 I attended a lecture on birth control by Michael Novak at a parish in Palo Alto.  I can’t remember a thing he said, but what stayed with me was the manner in which he answered questions; it certainly seemed to me that he was undermining faith in the received teaching [about birth control].  I was doing my best to uphold this teaching, and his comments left me angry.

By the time I was home again, I was ready to write a defense and explanation of the received teaching that had been reaffirmed by Pope Pius XI in Casti Connubii in 1930.  I began writing that afternoon and concluded my article late Sunday afternoon.  Never before or after have I been able to write like that.    Titled “Holy Communion: Eucharistic and Marital,” it drew a five-fold analogy between the worthy reception of the Holy Eucharist and the worthy marriage act.

I will list them here very briefly and I urge the interested reader to read the article at http://nfpandmore.org/Holy%20Communion%20-%20Eucharistic%20and%20Marital.pdf.

  1. Both are the results of sacraments. The first requires the Sacrament of Holy Orders which enables the priest to act in the person of Christ to bring about the changing of the bread and wine into the Sacrament of the Body and Blood of the Lord Jesus. The lawful marriage act requires that the spouses be married so that their physical union can be a marriage act. The Catholic Church teaches that a valid marriage between two Christians constitutes the Sacrament of Matrimony.
  2. Both are the results of a sacrificial offering: the first by the Lord Jesus on the cross, and the second by the spouses as they promise to love and to remain faithful to each other for better and for worse till death parts them.
  3. Both embody a bodily gift of self. This is quite obvious in the case of the Lord Jesus, but also in marriage the act ought to be a gift of self, at least not in any way opposed to the gift promised in making their marriage covenant.
  4. A renewal of the covenant. In receiving the Holy Eucharist, we implicitly renew our baptismal covenant with the Lord Jesus, both affirming our desire to walk with Him and asking for the strength to do so. In the marriage act, spouses are called to renew, at least implicitly, the faith and love and commitment of their original marriage covenant.
  5. The manner in which each covenant was sealed. The New Covenant announced at the Last Supper was sealed by the total self-giving of the Lord Jesus on the cross the next day. The marriage covenant is sealed by the spouses’ first marriage act which is a symbol of the total gift of the spouses to each other. Does a contracepted act constitute a true marriage act for purposes of Canon Law? That question goes beyond my competence, but the question certainly has been raised.

This is all too brief.  I hope you will read the original article that was published in Ave Maria magazine on February 25, 1967, exactly 17 months before Humanae Vitae.

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant

 

 

Natural Family Planning: Breastfeeding Spaces Babies

Wednesday, August 7th, 2019

This is the last daily blog for the World Breastfeeding Week which began August 1st.  If you want to start at the beginning of this series of blogs on breastfeeding and the natural spacing of babies, scroll down and check “Older Entries.”.

Below are some witnesses showing that natural spacing with breastfeeding does work!

“I am currently nursing my 17 month old and I have not had a period yet.”

“My son nurses on and off during the nights.  He is 22 months old and I had not had a period yet.”

“I read your book Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing when I was pregnant and I found it very inspiring and helpful.  I went 21 months without cycling after my first was born and 25 months after my second was born.  My third son is 7 months old and I am not cycling yet.  My husband and I do not really use the mucus method or the symptom thermal method.  I have found that breastfeeding is enough.”

“I’m new at NFP.  I didn’t practice ecological breastfeeding with my daughter and got pregnant with our son when our daughter was 6 months old.  I’m still nursing my son who is 13 months old and JUST got my cycle back.  I’ve been charting for a week now and I’m loving it.  So many of my friends use medical ways to control their fertility.  I feel it is so harmful to the body.  I’m so thankful for groups like this and glad I googled NFP.”

“I appreciated your encouragement to continue following child-led weaning.  I had a period a couple of days after writing to you.  It was the first one following 26 months of amenorrhea.  I was ecstatic, almost as excited as I was at age 14 when I had my first menstrual period!  I began charting immediately, ovulated and conceived.  I did wean our son during my pregnancy, but at a pace that suited us both.”

“The other day someone was complaining of cramps and discomfort with her period, and I mentioned that since my first baby I have never had all that cramping and pain with my periods.  Then I said: ‘But come to think of it, I’ve had so few periods.’  And my friend said, ‘You know, you are the truly liberated woman!’  How true!  So far I have had 11 periods in over 8 years.  That is with three babies.  Our 15 month old is nursing and I haven’t had a period yet.”

Not Just for Catholics

The most Seven Standard books sold are in groups of 100 and 200 to an Amish bookstore.  Below are comments from women of other faiths.

“You may wonder if I am of a faith that does not condone birth control means.  No, I am not, and I have in fact taken the pill for a year and a half between my two children.  My boys are over three years apart, as I remained sterile for nearly a year after those pills.  So I’ve found breastfeeding a lovely blessing in every way, and the infertility is only a convenient side effect.  We’ve decided on a third child at the earliest possible date—considering the breastfeeding situation, of course.”

“As a Protestant, ecological breastfeeding had never been presented to my husband and me as a logical way to have a family.  Our sweet little one is nine days old, and she will be the first one not to have a pacifier.  Many of my acquaintances are put right on the IUD after their first baby, and I think it’s a shame when God intended His way of spacing little ones.”

“My religion, Islam, encourages breastfeeding for two years and, according to some Muslim scholars, allows birth control to be practiced within that two-year period.  I feel that so many people ignore breastfeeding as a form of natural child spacing.  The techniques you describe are entirely compatible with my religion.”

“My daughter is 13 months old and we’re enjoying the breastfeeding relationship. I like the amenorrhea, and my husband and I are pleased with the absence of artificial birth control.  I am enjoying full-time mothering following four years as a social worker.  My husband is a new family practice physician.  He promotes breastfeeding at every opportunity and out of personal conviction does not prescribe the Pill nor fit IUDs for patients.”

“My husband is a pastor so we have many outside obligations to fulfill.  We take our seven-month-old baby everywhere and when she is hungry or needs pacifying, I am there with her.

Regarding breastfeeding, I was amazingly alone in my decisions to do this.  Even so-called “progressive” mothers rely on formula and/or pacifiers.  But I have found great support in women of my grandmother’s age.”

End of series for World Breastfeeding Week.
Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding